Discomfort in growth
Wanting more out of life sounds exciting in theory, but the part we don’t often think about is that wanting more usually means something has to change, and change is uncomfortable
A lot of what we do day to day is built around what’s convenient. Our routines, patterns and habits are mostly all running on autopilot, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Most of them were created to help us feel safe at some point. But over time, they can start to keep us stuck
The beginning of growth often starts with noticing that what feels familiar no longer feels right for you
There is usually a phase where you feel a bit unsettled. Like you are outgrowing old habits or ways of thinking, but you are not quite sure what replaces them yet. It can feel awkward and uncertain, like standing in the middle of something ending and something new beginning. This is often where it feels hardest
Not because you are doing something wrong, but because you are doing something different. Old ways stop working, new ones feel uncomfortable, and it would be very easy to go back to what you know, to choose comfort over growth, to convince yourself that now is not the right time. But that uncomfortable space is where change actually happens
It is where you start making small, quiet choices that slowly add up. Choosing better habits, setting slightly firmer boundaries, and raising your standards in ways that feel supportive rather than punishing. Learning to sit with discomfort instead of immediately escaping it
Becoming more is not about tearing yourself apart or becoming someone unrecognisable. It is about letting go of the parts of you that no longer fit, so there is room to grow into something more aligned
On the other side of that discomfort isn’t necessarily a “perfect” version of you. It is just a version that feels a little more honest, a little more grounded, a little more true to yourself. And sometimes, that is more than enough
